Friday, December 12, 2008

Our 3rd Child

It has recently come to my attention that we have a 3rd child. She is 4 years old, her name is Stacy and she is Vivi’s imaginary friend.

But our relationship with Stacy is a little weird. She doesn’t live with us, even though she is over all the time, she lives in her imaginary house.

I am not her mother; she has her own imaginary mother, although we have never met formally.

Vivi and Stacy are always together. The other day, Vivi was tiptoeing through the living room, whispering to “someone” behind her. They were on their way to the bathroom to see if another imaginary friend is in there. I don’t know the new friend, but I’m sure I’ll get to know him or her very soon.

Everyday we have to sing Happy Birthday to Stacy because everyday is her birthday. She must be 75 years old by now, but Vivi insists that she is still 4.

Stacy is a bit accident prone too. Here are some conversations between Vivi and Me about Stacy.

Vivi: “Stacy fell off her bike.”

Me: “Oh no! Did she hurt herself?”

Vivi: “Her head bleed.”

Me: “That’s terrible; she should wear a helmet and be more careful”


While driving on the expressway.

Vivi: “Stacy fell out of the car.”

Me: “Oh…I guess she’ll have to run and catch up to us.”

Vivi: “Ok, she’s back in the car.”

Me: “Wow that was fast!”

Vivi : “Yeah, she’s a fast runner.”


While I was fighting with Emerson about her homework

Vivi: “Mommy, why you mad at Emmy?”

Me: “She won’t do her homework.”

Vivi: “Stacy did all her homework.”

Me: “Good.”

Vivi: “You mad at Stacy?”

Me: “If she did all her homework, then I have no beef with her.”

Vivi: “OK.”


Vivi: "Stacy died."

Me: "She did?"

Vivi: "Yep, she fell in the water and died, but her mommy saved her"

Me: "She's alright now?"

Vivi: "Yep, she's right here."

Me: "Oh, hi Stacy, I didn't see you there." "Glad you're ok."


I was reading that an imaginary friend is usually the child’s alter ego. If your child is afraid of the dark, the imaginary child may not be afraid and that is how the child deals with their fear.

If you have a “good” child and the imaginary friend is naughty, this may be that your child feels that they have too many rules or punishments.

So, what does it mean if your child’s imaginary friend is a klutz?


Tori_z said...

I don't know if this means anything, but I did notice that all the times Stacy got hurt are times when there are strict safety rules involved.

For example, the bike incident... She cut her head. Your first reaction after knowing Stacy was fine was about wearing a helmet. Perhaps it's Vivie wondering why a helmet is necessary?

That kind of idea.

Just a thought.

heathersister said...

Kids are great. Danielle's imaginary friend was Gilligan (ya know from Gilligan's Island). WTH?? No idea? Anyway, he was always around and I was always getting in trouble for forgetting about him and sitting on him.

merc3069 said...

LMAO especially about Stacy dying! Kids are sooooo funny;-) Should Santa bring Stacy some presents?....

Intense Guy said...

Gosh the imaginary child welfare folks are gonna be on your case for sure.

I hope they go easy on you.

Seriously - Stacey seems a bit injury-prone. I hope Vivi isn't projecting being afraid of everything.

Rachel said...

How cute is she...fell out of the car...that is too funny!

I can't wait to hear more about your 3rd child :)

Anonymous said...

My daughter had an imaginary friend when she was 4 years old... it was Nicholas from the TV show Eight Is Enough... she used to talk and talk to Nicholas and when she was naughty she would blame it on Nicholas.... or her Barbie dolls.

Our grandson just turned 4 on December 5th... he carries on conversations with imaginary people, one was a policeman that assisted him with a push down our slide. Maybe it's just a four year old thing.

The Blue Ridge Gal

Queenie Jeannie said...

I think it's cool and I wouldn't overanalyze too much!!

So sorry you've been sick! I've been pretty busy myself and haven't made my usual "rounds" either. Feel better, k?

Rebecca Jo said...

I had an imaginary friend too growing up... she would go down the sink during bath time... one time we left her in a store & I made my mom drive all the way back to pick her up... I dont remember any of it, but my mom has vivid memories of me & my imaginary friend.

Anna Lefler said...

Har! Awesome post!

I was talking to a woman in a store here in Santa Monica the other day and she mentioned that her daughter (8) had an imaginary friend.

"Her name's Michelle and she's eight, too. And she's an alcoholic."

I'm sorry but sometimes I know in my heart that I'm just not cool enough to live here.



Heather said...

Michelle sat on Gilligan?!

How come I don't remember that? Jeez...

Strange enough, none of my kids have ever had an imaginary friend. What do the experts say about that one?

Glad you're feeling better. Now it sounds like Michelle has it. Can this "virus" travel through blogland? Makes you wonder, huh?

Denise said...

Awwwwwww! That is soooo cute! :) I wonder if my daughter will have an imaginary friend??

ChicagoLady said...

OMG, poor Stacy! You need to keep a better eye on her. Since she's at your house so often, you're essentially her guardian. The invisible police will come after you for child endangerment or neglect.

YOU weren't anywhere near the water when Stacy drowned, were you?

YOU were driving when Stacy fell out of the car? Did YOU remember to buckle her up? Did YOU make sure she was wearing her safety items (helmet & pads) before riding her bike?

The Wife O Riley said...

I'm just waiting for the "Mommy & Daddy Dearest" book to come out!